Some Love Is Worth Fighting For
Some Love Is Worth Fighting For
Two Sundays ago, a lady I had previously worked with shared a testimony that deeply moved me.
Her introduction ceremony had just been completed.
She described the entire day as unforgettable.
According to her, the most beautiful part was watching how God surprised everyone.
Because of her age, many of her relatives expected that the man coming for her would be much older.
Instead, a young, responsible, and well-established man arrived.
The entire family was surprised.
But that wasn’t the greatest testimony.
Out of six sisters, she became the first to go through a proper family introduction.
The others had entered relationships that never followed that path.
She told me that one of her prayers had always been to honor God by following the proper process into marriage.
Today, her traditional marriage has already been scheduled.
What makes this testimony even more remarkable is the journey behind it.
She first met me about two years earlier.
At the time, she had experienced repeated relationship disappointments and believed there were serious spiritual battles affecting her marital life.
After a period of focused prayers and spiritual exercises, something changed.
About five months later, a man approached her with genuine intentions.
It looked like the answer she had been praying for.
Then the resistance began.
Her pastor preferred that the man marry someone else.
A close family member of the man had someone different in mind for him.
His father objected because of where she came from.
As the relationship became more serious, the man also experienced a sudden loss of employment.
Every direction they turned seemed to present another obstacle.
When she came back to me to explain everything, my response surprised her.
Anyone who knows me knows that I rarely encourage people to hold on to relationships simply because they are emotionally attached.
Most times, if something clearly isn’t right, I advise people to let it go.
But this time was different.
I told her,
“Fight for this relationship. It is worth it.”
Not because every relationship deserves a fight.
But because discernment matters.
Some relationships are distractions.
Others are worth persevering through.
Over the following months, they remained intentional.
She continued praying.
She remained committed.
Gradually, doors that had seemed permanently closed began to open.
Opposition gave way.
Favor replaced resistance.
The man eventually secured a major contract.
A few days before proposing, he surprised her with money to prepare for a new season of life.
Shortly afterward, he proposed.
Within weeks, both families gathered for the introduction ceremony.
What once looked impossible became reality.
Looking back, one lesson stands out.
Personally, I do not believe people should fight for every relationship.
Many people stay where they should leave.
Many ignore obvious warning signs in the name of perseverance.
That is not wisdom.
However, there are also relationships that are worth protecting.
Relationships where the foundation is healthy.
Where the character is sound.
Where the compatibility is genuine.
Where the future is worth building.
The challenge is knowing the difference.
Discernment is what tells you when to walk away.
Discernment is also what tells you when not to give up too soon.
Not every difficult relationship should become a marriage.
But not every difficult season means you should abandon a relationship.
Sometimes, what is waiting on the other side of perseverance is exactly what you have been praying for.
The key is not to fight for love blindly.
The key is to know which love is worth fighting for.
