There is a dangerous assumption many people make about relationships: They believe that if someone is a good person, then that person must be good for their destiny. That is not necessarily true. A person can be kind and still be wrong for your assignment. A person can love you and still limit you. A…
Did God Really Say They Were Your Spouse? Let me ask you a very important question. Does God lie? Your immediate answer is probably, “Of course not.” But then let me ask you another question. Have you ever prayed about someone and became convinced that God said, “This is your husband” or “This is your…
The Illusion of Options One of the greatest deceptions in modern dating is what I call the illusion of options. It is the belief that because you are admired by many people, you have countless meaningful relationship opportunities. A young woman may think, “Men are always calling me beautiful. Why should I settle for one…
Choose a Partner Who Can Carry Your Vision Yesterday, a dearly beloved woman of God called me in tears. She first came to see me about two years ago because of her marriage. She explained that her husband had become emotionally distant. Although he was very wealthy, he lived in another state and only visited…
Anything Ignored Before Marriage Will Be Harder After Last year, a newly married man came to see me. Not long after his wedding, his financial life took a drastic downturn. As he explained everything that had been happening, the first question that came out of my mouth was, “Why did you marry her?” He looked…
Attention Is Not Commitment Several years ago, a close female friend invited me to her newly rented apartment. At the time, I had just left my job, stepped away from business, and begun full-time ministry. Before I left, she asked me to pray for her. As I prayed, something unusual happened. I became aware of…
Some Love Is Worth Fighting For Two Sundays ago, a lady I had previously worked with shared a testimony that deeply moved me. Her introduction ceremony had just been completed. She described the entire day as unforgettable. According to her, the most beautiful part was watching how God surprised everyone. Because of her age, many…
Don’t Build a Marriage on One Quality About three years ago, a pastor came to me because he wanted clarity before getting married. Someone had referred him to me, and he wanted to know whether he should proceed with the relationship. After seeking direction, I simply told him, “Don’t go ahead with this marriage.” He…
Marriage Magnifies, It Doesn’t Repair One of the most dangerous assumptions people make is believing that marriage automatically fixes relationship problems. It doesn’t. In many cases, marriage simply magnifies what already exists. If a relationship is already unhealthy during courtship, marriage often makes those issues more visible because life becomes more demanding and there is…
One Instruction Can Change Everything One beautiful testimony came in today, and I just had to share it. A lady had been in a relationship with a man for several years. They genuinely loved each other and wanted to get married, but there was one major obstacle. He simply did not have the financial capacity…